This is Bianca, born March 22, 2005. My name is
Norma. I’m young, single and a parent. This is my Web Site.
Statistics:
v One out
of every two children in the
v The
number of single parents has risen dramatically and keeps rising as the years
go by. In the last two decades numbers have gone up nearly 70%.
v About
550,000 single women are raising children 18 and younger and single dad numbers
have risen too, 62,000 in 1981 to 119,000 in 2001.
v More
single mothers are now able to go further in school. While 46% of single
mothers had not completed high school in 1981, by 2001 the proportion had
plunged to 22%.
Learn
more
http://single-parenting.families.com
About me:
I’m
21 years old and have been a single mom for almost two years. I was with
Bianca’s father for five years before I found out I was pregnant. After
Bianca was born I decided that I had to get away for Bianca’s and my
wellbeing. It’s hard but not impossible. I decided to make my Web Site
about being a single parent because the numbers of single parents are growing
rapidly and the parents are getting younger. It’s important to know that
you’re not alone and that there are a lot of other young people that are
in the same situation. I want to share with you a few things I learned since I
have been a single mom. Like everything there are good things and bad things
about being single.
Financially:
I’m
not going to lie, it’s hard! I really have to stick to my budget. The one
thing that I really had to learn is that you can’t get everything for
your child. There are a lot of adorable things out there that you can buy for
your kids, but you really have to not fall into the temptation to get them.
Always, always get what is necessary first, then if you have extra money buy
one thing that you really think your child would enjoy. You would be surprised
how many people don’t do that! Learn how to budget your money by visiting
http://singleparents.about.co
Emotionally:
Sometimes
it’s draining not to have a partner to help you. You work so hard and
come home and have to work some more. Never show your kids when you’re
sad or stressed and never take it out on them because you’re having a bad
day! When I have those days I either go into the bathroom where Bianca
can’t see me or just hold all my emotions till she is sleeping. Believe
it or not your kids know everything that is going on with you. They know when
you’re happy, sad, or stressed and it affects them just as bad as it does
you. So when you’re around them try to always have a smile on your face.
Personal:
Between
your kids, work and sometimes school gives you no time to date or go out.
It’s hard to find someone who doesn’t have kids and wants to date.
Just like any single person you want to have a personal life and a
relationship. I have learned you meet the honest guys once you tell them that
you have a baby, the ones that really like you and don’t just “want
to have fun” will keep calling; the ones that don’t some how lose
your number. It’s really hard to leave your kids with a baby-sitter for a
few hours but sometimes that is just what you need, and sometimes it’s
not only for you but for your child too. While doing some research for my web
page I found a lot of Web Sites for single parents to meet. One of them I found
was www.singleparentmeet.com I
don’t know how reliable it is, but it’s worth a try.
I
have always been a very independent person, right now I live with my mom and
it’s hard for me because I’m so used to being on my own. That is
why I’m here today. I want to be able to provide my daughter everything I
can and someday be on my own again. It’s really nice to have my
mom’s support but it will be so much nicer when I can be on my own with
my daughter.
For
all of you that are young single parents don’t forget that you’re
not alone. There will be times when it gets hard and you might think it
can’t get any worse, you will always find the way to make it better not
necessarily for you but for you child. The one really good advice I can give
any single parent, that I have had a really hard time understanding is when it
comes down to your kids it’s not
how much time you spend with your child, it’s the quality time that
really counts.
I hope you liked my Web
Page; let me know what you think normahernandez@empirecollege.com